You know what’s always mind-blowing to me?
The way an entire house can get cleaned during the 15 minute countdown before people arrive.
It’s not like time, that you didn’t have before, unexpectedly just popped up out of nowhere and suddenly you’re free to clean. What happened was, you thought because your house looks a hot mess, people might think you’re a hot mess too.
Having a clean house is good. It’s actually physiologically proven to reduce stress. But I think maybe sometimes, we need to be a little less afraid to invite people into our mess. I think it’s okay to say, “Sorry the house is a mess, but come on in!” You know what that translates as?
I am a human.
My life is not perfect.
I am not perfect.
I feel a little overwhelmed at times.
I accept you as you are.
You are welcome here.
You’re more important to me than my image. I value you and our time together more than I value other people’s perception of me.
When our dwelling places look perfect all the time, I really think that people feel subconsciously like they have to look that way in order to be accepted by us because clearly we have it all together.
Can you think of a time where you walked into someone’s house and there were toys on the floor, cleaning supplies set out, food that hadn’t yet been put away…yet you felt the most comfortable in that moment? Because that house felt like home.
So, maybe we should stop doing the frantic “throw everything in cabinets and closets, sweep the floor, and wipe the counters” routine. Maybe not.
But we shouldn’t be afraid to invite people in at the drop of a hat.
Relationship is greater than perfection.
People are more important than image.
Don’t forget what really matters and stop stressing over the things that don’t.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Lexi Judy: Lexi Judy is the Community Outreach Coordinator for the Crisis Pregnancy Center of Tidewater. She teaches 9th & 10th grade girls at Liberty Live, Harborview Campus, and leads a group of young adults at Greenbrier. Lexi is the author of Because He Loved Me, a book that walks through her experience with cancer at 16. She also serves on the SBCV Women’s Ministry Team. To read more of Lexi’s writings, visit alexisjudy.com.